KAREN JULIA KORFMACHER
Mediator l Personal & Business Coach l Mentor l Couples Counselor l HR & Newplacement Consultant l Attorney
I support people who are facing changes, decisions or challenges in their personal lives – and who want a safe, trustworthy space to navigate them. My focus lies on life and relationship questions, personal challenges, transitions, reorientation and decision-making processes.
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We carry many answers and resources within us – yet sometimes it takes targeted questions, new perspectives or a clear structure to bring them to the surface. I create this space for you: non-judgmental and empathetic, resource- and solution-oriented, structured and grounded in everyday life. Together, we clarify what truly matters, sort your thoughts, uncover strengths and create orientation for your next steps.
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I work with systemic questions, proven tools and effective impulses – drawing on models, research and my practical experience. Without pressure, but with structure, clarity and depth.
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I support you in:
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Finding orientation and confidence during phases of transition and change.
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Strengthening self-care, energy and balance – especially in demanding everyday situations.
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Gaining clarity in personal life questions, e.g. during family changes or sensitive relationship issues.
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Navigating fears, self-doubt, intense emotions or inner blocks – for greater agency and self-efficacy.
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Addressing conflicts with care and developing sustainable solutions.
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Recognizing your needs, values and boundaries – and making decisions that truly support your long-term well-being.
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Understanding and shifting communication patterns – for deeper connection and mutual understanding.
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Developing a more conscious relationship with your emotions – for greater calm and self-determination.
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Shaping closeness and distance in ways that feel healthy and authentic – without losing yourself.​​
My approach:
I support you through phases of change, relationship dynamics and conflict situations – offering a safe space for clarity, growth and understanding.
Typical topics:
Gaining clarity and reorientation during personal transitions
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Understanding relationship dynamics and resolving conflicts constructively
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Deepening communication and cultivating connection intentionally
Possible formats:
Mentoring & Sparring
– ongoing support and space for reflection
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Personal & Life Coaching
– intentional life design and everyday clarity
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Relationship Counseling & Couples Coaching
– fostering understanding, connection and new perspectives
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Couples & Family Mediation
– structured process for clarification, understanding and constructive conflict resolution
What I offer
I use a range of systemic methods that adapt to your specific needs. Your topics and challenges — not the method — are at the center of the work. I focus on what resonates with you and supports meaningful change.
Mentoring & Sparring
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Ongoing support and space for reflection
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30 minutes
„We are what we repeatedly do.“
– Aristotle
Mentoring & Sparring – ongoing support and space for reflection
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In times of transition it’s rarely the big leap that drives change, but the small, steady steps that follow.
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Through regular virtual check-ins, I support you with structure, empathy, and practical insight. These meetings offer you a safe space to sort your thoughts, set priorities, and make decisions with greater clarity and ease.
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I’m your Sparring & Cheer-Accountability Partner: I listen, ask questions, offer impulses, help you take focused next steps, celebrate your progress, and support you in staying on track – even when things feel challenging.
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Each meeting is a short, focused space for reflection and progress. Between meetings, you’ll receive personalised reflection and exploration tasks to help you integrate new insights into your daily life and anchor meaningful change.
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Systemic mentoring aims to empower you to make authentic decisions that align with your values, strengthen self-awareness, and develop a mindset that supports your growth – both personally and professionally.
Key Facts:
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Focus: Sparring & Cheer-Accountability
Time frame: Present + Future
Duration: Medium to long-term (recommended: 3-12 months)
Role: First point of contact for questions, doubts, or decisions
Programmes:
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Flow – Your space for balance and personal growth
Bi-weekly meetings (30 min) as continuous support in everyday life – for structure, balance, and personal growth.
Focus – Your phase of momentum
Weekly meetings (30 min) as intensive support – for demanding times, sound decisions, and new perspectives.
Start – Your structured beginning
Three months of effective support with six meetings (30 min) – for orientation, practical steps, and impactful implementation.
Deep – Your sustainable journey of growth
Six months of long-term support with twelve meetings (30 min) – for sustainable change, inner clarity, and conscious life design.
Personal & Life Coaching – intentional life design and everyday clarity
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We already carry the answers to our questions within us – we just sometimes need a little support to discover and decode them.
Systemic Coaching aims to activate existing resources. As an expert on your own situation, you enter a non-judgmental space in which you can deal with the current challenges in your life in a structured, goal- and solution-oriented way. The focus lies on your individual strengths and opportunities.
I support you with systemic questions and interventions to find new perspectives and creative solutions. I always keep an eye on the process and guide you on the path to greater clarity, connection and growth.
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Key Facts:
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Focus: Activating resources, new perspectives, creative solutions
Time frame: Present + future
Duration: Short to medium-term (usually 3-5 sessions)
Objective: Fostering long-term growth and personal development – Systemic Coaching not only addresses current challenges, but also aims for sustainable development
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I particularly enjoy working with these tools & interventions:​
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Scientifically grounded personality assessment based on the Big Five: LINC Personality Profiler (LPP)
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Wisdom and advice from inner mentors: “Mentor Meeting”
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Activating skills and resources, interrupting patterns: “Specialist Hill”
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Change work with inner parts, relationship with oneself: “Inner Side Model”
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Inner Beliefs: “The Work of Byron Katie”
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Creative solutions: “Disney Strategy” & “Miracle Question”
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Activating resources: “Timeline” & “ Resource Journey”
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Decision-making, life balance: “Tetralemma” & “Wheel of Values”
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Conflict clarification: “Iceberg Model” & “Conflict Grid”
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Communication and conflict patterns: “Four-Ear Dialog”
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Role clarity within the family system: “Teamplayer”​​​
Personal & Life Coaching
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Intentional life design and everyday clarity
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90 minutes
„​​It is not so much what you look at that is important, but what you see.”​
– Henry David Thoreau
Relationship Counseling & Couples Coaching
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Fostering understanding, connection and new perspectives
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90 minutes
„It is not our differences that divide us. It is our inability to recognize, accept and celebrate these differences.“
– Audre Lorde
Relationship Counseling & Couples Coaching – fostering understanding, connection and new perspectives
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Similarities connect. Differences are invitations. I guide and support you in shaping your relationship in a way that feels good and harmonious for you.
I support couples in mastering times of change and challenges and emerging stronger as individuals and – if desired – as a couple. My approach helps to create clarity, to strengthen communication and connection and to develop new perspectives for the future. After all, particularly in turbulent times, a couple's relationship can be a stable anchor – and at the same time provide new drive.
I support you in:
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Communicating openly and appreciatively to avoid misunderstandings and strengthen trust.
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Activating strengths and resources to utilize current challenges as potential for individual and mutual growth.
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Gaining new perspectives to recognize opportunities in changes and develop constructive solutions.
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Systemic Relationship Counseling & Couples Coaching aims to empower people to make good decisions for themselves. This means becoming more self-aware, developing reflective thought processes and forming an authentic mindset towards your relationship and partner.​
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Systemic Relationship Counseling & Couples Coaching creates a space in which the psychological experience and underlying needs are brought into focus. In medium to long-term support, communication and dynamic interaction at relationship level are explored with the aim of finding ways to deal with differences. Resolving conflicts is not the primary goal here – dealing with them is more important.
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"Fighting well" is a skill that can be learned – it requires transparent, emotional communication and the development of safe communication and conflict rules. This involves not only how to resolve conflicts, but also how to build an open and supportive dialogue culture. Practical exercises and interactive methods strengthen the ability to manage conflicts in such a way as to ensure that they are not destructive, but can be used as an opportunity for personal and collective growth.​
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Key Facts:
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Focus: Fundamental topics and needs, communication and dynamic interaction at relationship level, essential behaviors
Time frame: Past + present + future
Duration: Medium to long-term (usually 5-8 sessions)
Comprehensive: Addressing underlying structures that influence the relationship as a whole​​​​
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I particularly enjoy working with these models & interventions:
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Nonviolent Communication
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Traffic light system for emotion regulation
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4-Ear Model
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5:1 ratio pos./neg. interactions
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Stress Theory Model: Dyadic Coping
Couples & Family Mediation – structured process for clarification, understanding and constructive conflict resolution
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Systemic Couples and Family Mediation is a confidential and structured process to help resolve conflicts within relationships and families voluntarily and independently. As a certified mediator, I guide you through the process in a structured, independent, impartial manner and without decision-making authority.
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Mediation aims to resolve specific challenges in the present and simultaneously create the basis for a better future together. The focus lies on the creative and sustainable resolution of specific conflicts, with short to medium-term support.
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Mediation is not only time and cost efficient, but also flexible. It offers a valuable alternative to court proceedings in order to resolve conflicts sustainably.
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Key Facts:
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Focus: Specific current conflicts, context-dependent challenges
Time frame: Present + future
Duration: Short to medium-term (usually 3-5 sessions)
Time- and cost-efficient: Mediation is generally faster, cheaper and associated with a lower cost risk than court proceedings
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5 Phases of Mediation (5-Phases Model):
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The mediation process is divided into 5 essential phases. At the beginning, you establish the basis for your cooperation by means of a working agreement. You then describe your view of the conflict one after the other and collect topics that you would like to discuss together. We then look at the underlying interests and needs. Finally, you develop and work on solution options and, if you wish, bring these to a final agreement.
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Confidential individual pre-mediation meetings (45 minutes) are not required for every case, but they can be highly valuable in certain situations — for example when topics are complex, emotions are high, or when you want to ensure a well-prepared and safe starting point.
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Distinction from Therapy:
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I am not a therapist. In mediation, we do not explore the past in detail with the aim of healing it. Instead, we look at past situations or examples only to the extent that they help us understand the present and shape a different future. The guiding question is: How much of your past do you need to understand in order to create the tomorrow you want?
Clarity. Connection. Growth.