My Methods

“It is not so much what you look at that is important, but what you see.” - Henry David Thoreau

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We already carry the answers to our questions within us - but sometimes we need a little support to discover and decode them.

 

Systemic Coaching aims to activate existing resources. As an expert on your own situation, you enter a non-judgmental space in which you can deal with the current challenges in your life in a structured, goal- and solution-oriented way. The focus lies on your individual strengths and opportunities. 

 

I support you with systemic questions and interventions to find new perspectives and creative solutions. I always keep an eye on the process and guide you on the path to greater clarity, connection and growth.

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Key Facts:

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• Focus: Activating resources, new perspectives, creative solutions

• Present + future

• Short to medium-term support (usually 3-5 sessions)

• Fostering long-term growth and personal development: Systemic Coaching not only addresses current challenges, but also aims for sustainable development

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I particularly enjoy working with these systemic interventions:​

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• Science and tool-based personality analysis (based on the BIG FIVE): "LINC PERSONALITY PROFILER"

• Wisdom and advice from inner mentors: “Mentor Meeting”

• Activating skills and resources, interrupting patterns: “Specialist Hill”

• Change work with inner parts, relationship with oneself: “Inner Side Model”

• Inner Beliefs: “The Work of Byron Katie”

• Creative solutions: “Disney Strategy” & “Miracle Question”

• Activating resources: “Timeline” & “ Resource Journey”

• Decision-making, life balance: “Tetralemma” & “Wheel of Values”

• Conflict clarification: “Iceberg Model” & “Conflict Grid”

• Communication and conflict patterns: “Four-Ear Dialog”

• Role clarity within the family system: “Teamplayer”

"It is not our differences that divide us. It is our inability to recognize, accept and celebrate these differences." - Audre Lorde

 

I support couples in mastering times of change and challenges and emerging stronger as individuals and - if desired - as a couple. My approach helps to create clarity, to strengthen communication and connection and to develop new perspectives for the future. After all, particularly in turbulent times, a couple's relationship can be a stable anchor - and at the same time provide new drive.
 
I support you in:

• Communicating openly and appreciatively to avoid misunderstandings and strengthen trust.

• Activating strengths and resources to utilize current challenges as potential for individual and mutual growth.

• Gaining new perspectives to recognize opportunities in changes and develop constructive solutions.

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Systemic Relationship Counseling & Couple Coaching aims to empower people to make good decisions for themselves. This means becoming more self-aware, developing reflective thought processes and forming an authentic mindset towards your relationship and partner.

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In contrary to selective conflict resolution, Systemic Relationship Counseling & Couple Coaching addresses deeper topics that affect the relationship and, in addition to current challenges, also sheds light on past experiences and events that have an impact on the current relationship.​

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Systemic Relationship Counseling & Couple Coaching creates a space in which the psychological experience and underlying needs are brought into focus. In medium to long-term support, communication and dynamic interaction at relationship level are explored with the aim of finding ways to deal with differences. Resolving conflicts is not the primary goal here - dealing with them is more important.

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Key Facts: 

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• Focus: Fundamental topics and needs, communication and dynamic interaction at relationship level, essential behaviors

• Past + present + future

• Medium to long-term support (usually 5-8 sessions)

• Comprehensive: Addressing underlying structures that influence the relationship as a whole

„Peace is not the absence of conflict, but the ability to resolve conflicts peacefully.“ - Mahatma Gandhi

 

Systemic Couple and Family Mediation is a confidential and structured process to help resolve conflicts within relationships and families voluntarily and independently. As a certified mediator, I guide you through the process in a structured, independent, impartial manner and without decision-making authority. 

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Mediation aims to resolve specific challenges in the present and simultaneously create the basis for a better future together. The focus lies on the creative and sustainable resolution of specific conflicts, with short to medium-term support.

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Mediation is not only time and cost efficient, but also flexible. It offers a valuable alternative to court proceedings in order to resolve conflicts sustainably.

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Key Facts:

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• Focus: Specific current conflicts, context-dependent challenges

• Present + future

• Short to medium-term support (usually 3-5 sessions)

• Time- and cost-efficient: Mediation is generally faster, cheaper and associated with a lower cost risk than court proceedings

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5 Phases of Mediation (5-Phases Model):

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The mediation process is divided into 5 essential phases. At the beginning, you establish the basis for further cooperation by means of a working agreement. You then describe your view of the conflict one after the other and collect topics that you would like to discuss together. We then look at the underlying interests and needs. Finally, you develop and work on solution options and, if you wish, bring these to a final agreement. 

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In the first session, we focus on the working agreement, assessing the current situation and collecting topics. Whether we already address your interests and needs in the first or second session is very individual and depends on you and your objectives.

"One cannot not communicate." - Paul Watzlawick

 

"Fighting well" is a skill that can be learned - it requires transparent, emotional communication and the development of safe communication and conflict rules. In communication and conflict management workshops, I teach the basics of non-violent communication (NVC) and provide relevant concepts and helpful tools.

 

This involves not only how to resolve conflicts, but also how to build an open and supportive dialogue culture.

 

Practical exercises and interactive methods strengthen the ability to manage conflicts in such a way as to ensure that they are not destructive, but can be used as an opportunity for personal and collective growth.​

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Key Facts:

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• Focus: Learning transparent and emotional communication, developing safe communication and conflict rules

• Future

• Short-term support (usually 1-3 sessions)

• Practical exercises and interactive methods: What you have learned can be applied directly and practiced in realistic scenarios

 

I particularly enjoy working with these models:

 

• Nonviolent Communication

• 4-Ear Model

• ​5:1 ratio pos./neg. interactions

• Stress Theory Model: Dyadic Coping